No worries I’ve followed along just fine.
I’m getting the impression you want consistent battles and have suggested allowing higher player counts on Officials. G-Portal servers can barely support 40/40 and Funcom has not indicated any willingness to budge on their choice of provider. So will be extremely unlikely in happening. Depending on the community on a server it will determine what type of players you encounter but what you seem to be describing is high PVP group fights and wanting to engage in that. Except if you’re looking for fights it will never be on your terms. It shouldn’t be on your terms. Group fights are rarely fair, they’re chaotic and if you have trouble dealing with it, sure, absolutely not enjoyable. So don’t engage in them.
If you’re insinuating as well that solos should be protected from ambushes that might be advantageous to you but highly exploitable no matter what suggestion you have. It could even potentially render clans all but useless.
I enjoy the spontaneity of ambushes personally. I think most PVPers do. The uncertainty and risk is what makes PVP so attractive for many players. That risk could be the possibility of a random encounter with 1 other player or many. Play the game normally without seeking out any encounters, it will happen naturally.
There are so many strategies and tools at your disposal, @thoth-anon added more suggestions, use them.
Most of your issues would be resolved with a clan if you’re not willing to explore other playstyles.