I’m not sure if it helps or not but apparently through all my log in attempts my character starved to death. Seems my last fatal error was indeed fatal, my husband said I died in front of him and he has had to loot my corpse and put my stuff in my chest
Update: So after dying from starvation from multiple log in attempts I was able to log in. On my person before death I had dlc earrings and dlc spear, not sure if it is related.
Further: After my death and managing to log in I did not equip my dlc weapon and earrings and I was able to log out and back in again. Played for a few hours then crashed with a fatal error after opening the large campfire. It may be worth anyone that is having the same fatal errors on logging in to see if any of their friends can remove dlc items from their person.