I am playing on a private PvP server with various mods, but most importantly Pippi, fashionista and sexiles!
Being a woman in a savage PvP world, where one can be captured, enslaved and raped, is an experience that no traditional game mechanic can offer. It requires a very specific sets of factors to achieve this.
There is a certain gender based gravitas and agency that is diegetic to the world. Incredibly immersive, and quite relevant to Howards vision. Couple that with CE’s graphical and animation fidelity and you have one of the most immersive experiences in the industry.
Only thing that comes close to this is obviously Skyrim (with mods of course), but other players don’t glitch out (generally). There is actual emotional engagement instead of interacting with an automated robot.
I would have thought a private PvP server is going to be a grief fest… but no. It’s actually even more civilized than PvE servers, because player engagement in PvP is very closely guided. It’s like a gentleman’s dual with rapiers of old.
Now, I know some of these things seem obvious to many, but as a former official server player who has played since the beginning, I can tell you one thing profound that I learned from this that also liberates me in RL:
Progress is not an accumulation, but a habit. The accumulation is just a by-product of that habit.
Be defined by the journey, not the luggage.