I have to disagree my dear friend 
In Denmark we have a saying that goes something like this:
Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should!
I see it like this, the game gives you options to choose from.
Just because you have a lot of different building materials and placeables doesn’t mean you should use pretty much everything at once, especially not on official servers.
Common sense is the key word, not everyone have it and different degree and understanding of it, some won’t even acknowledge that servers are a shared space, so the solution is to have rules and limitations to ensure that things don’t get out of hand.
It is just too easy to say that players have minimum responsibility and Funcom has a huge responsibility, especially since we want as much freedom as possible without them making strict rules and limitations, I am just having a hard time seeing this work well in the long run, and especially the Exiled Lands servers are a good example of how much the official servers degrade over time 
That leaves out a lot of possibilities other than server wipes once in a while.
I would love to see an upkeep cost system with less strict rules, but I have lot faith in that ever happening.
Applying limitations isn’t the best thing, but it does prevent people from going totally overboard, who doesn’t remember the insane zoo parks around bases with hundreds of pets, I definitely do not want to see a return of such, I think having building and placement limits on official server isn’t ideal, but I think it is the closest we will ever come to get more stable servers.
Regular server wipes can do a lot, but Funcom “accidentally” promised to never wipe their official servers, so players can use them as their personal vault of old memories and legacy items.
On top of everything, there needs to be rules and some sort of punishment for not following them, that is just how a society works, else it would just turn into anarchy.
Personally I think something has to be done sooner rather than later, official servers are constantly getting worse and it is their biggest window for new players.
I have lost hope in ever seeing an upkeep system or even server wipes, so I only see hardcoded limitations on buildings and placeables with off course some rules to follow as an option, not the best solution, but at least it is something 