You already mentioned you are playing happily on a private server, so I guess, what happens on officials is not really relevant for you. So I don’t get what you are trying to advocate.
Ofc massive bases are an issue on pve and pve-c, but for many players(me included) pve-c is the perfect mix of being able to do pvp without having to jeopardize your base.
As you are entitled to your opinion, I am entitled to mine and the server population on pve-c servers actually proves me right, a lot of people enjoy that concept as is