Okay I’m game to try anything!!

We looked at some non-essentials and dropped some of the mods out.
That being said, we have played on servers running these same mods and more, with 40 to 50+ mods with no conflicts or problems. (Hidden Realms for example)

Here is the new load order:
Pippi
ModControlPanel
Barbarian Barber
Glass Constructions and more…
Pythagoras: Expanded Building
Beyond stations
Beyond Decor
Professions
EEWA
Exiles Extreme
Fashionist
Proximity Party
Better Thralls
Improved Quality of Life
Hosav’s Custom UI Mod
Less Building Placement Restrictions
Pickup+
Stacksize Plus
Unlock Plus
Chest Storage ++
VAM