Welcome to the game and the forum. It’s funny that when i joined this forum 1 year ago my complain was almost the same, if i remember well my post title was ’ chaos in the official servers’. Because this game however is so beautiful, i stayed. I remember in this year, once after a dlc update, the game was crushing all the time, it was horor. The hotfix took about 10 days. Still, after this experience, no matter how many bugs, the game seems normal to me 

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If you want to really experience this game correctly and having real fun choose different. Play with your friends pve or pve c, on official servers and pvp on private. Pve on official servers is a very well balanced experience, each one of your friends will build in different areas so you can share farming intel that later on on pvp it will be crucial. Stay at least 2 months on pve or pve c before you go pvp. Every area is keeping so many secrets that you will find it unbelievable, how this small map is so big after all.
Go pvp on private servers for several reasons.
1st, the Alfa clans on pvp servers are invincible. They can only loose by very experienced players that happen to be Alfa in another server and came to this server to dominate another server.
2nd, obelisck and dungeon campers, spawn kill is a nusty habit on official servers that will probably brake your moral. In most of the private servers this is not allowed. Admin is punishing the one that makes the spawn kill and gives back the items to the victim.
3rd, hacks and undermash builds.
4rth, events. Pvp admins have beautiful events that will give you a beautiful gaming experience. For theese events, theese persons have spend 100 of hours so you can have fun for some minutes, they deserve a thank you here
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5th, farm multiply, you really need this on pvp because someone will break you, so you need to rize up fast and revenge.
I can give you more reasons, like raid of etc… But it’s up tp you to find out why pvp must be on private GOOD servers. I guarantee you that you will have to make a long journey until you found the perfect server, still i wish to you just one thing , always be with your buddies no matter what, because the real fun in every game is to play with them, your clan, your team, your friends.
Welcome again my friend, i wish for you the best
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