Hello @SindeeSyringe, thank you for getting in touch!
Our team is actively looking into improving overall console performance and addressing its specific issues. Depending on the server load, player-built structures in the area and your hardware and connection the time to load in everything may greatly vary.
What’s your current connection speed and ping to the server?
Are you on a wired connection or wireless one?
In the shared video, it seems that you’re loading in an area with a high amount of placeables, as such, we would advise you to reduce the number of light sources, NPCs and even building pieces, by this order of priority, if possible.
Regarding the Contextual Controls, there’s a known issue where the Show Contextual Controls setting resets after the game restarts, which should be addressed in a future update.