Lots of complaints here about hackers and exploiters. Lots of building and walling complaints on over c servers.
I suggest you play private servers. I enjoy pvp but don’t have time to guard my base due to work. I settled on a one c server with 24 7 pvp with no building damage. It’s a private server with a list of mods.
I’ve also never played with mods before. 1700 hours in and I finally found a game style that is sustainable and enjoyable for the average person.
The server I found is called Conan exiles & stuff.
It can be hard to find because the server list search is bugged. But you can find the server and mod list here or on Reddit. I typed this on my phone and will link the mod list and direct server connect when I get to a pc.
Conan can be enjoyable for people.