Hey there,
If there’s something about Official servers you don’t like, it is likely that there is a dedicated server with your preferences. Be sure to browse the Servers and Recruitment subforum and feel free to Join the new fan-made Discord channel! to ask there. Otherwise, there are a few other places to look:
https://conanexiles.gamepedia.com/Useful_links#Servers
Ps: Imo this post is more on-topic in the Servers and Recruitment subforum (Conan Exiles Community Guidelines - please read). You can always ask a moderator to move it. 